Breaking Free from the EvolDances & How to Reclaim Your True Self

Do you control your mind or does your mind CONTROL YOU?

We all know the feeling... the noise, the distractions, the constant chase for something outside of ourselves. Maybe it's the endless scroll of social media, the rush for validation, the unhealthy habits that momentarily fill the void but never quite satisfy.

These patterns, these “Escapism Behaviors,” are what I call EvolDances... the dances with things that we turn to outside of ourselves to avoid confronting the truth within and reality of who and what we truly are. But what if I told you there’s a better way? A way to break free, destroy that monkey, demon, shadow, chain and /or bond to reclaim your true essence, and start swaying to a new rhythm... One that’s true to who you are?

What are EvolDances?

EvolDances are the external distractions; the addictions, the escapes, the things that numb us to our own reality. They come in many forms: pornography, alcohol, excessive screen time, substance abuse, the constant need for validation, and the list goes on. These behaviors are not only temporary fixes, but they also create a cycle that keeps us trapped.

Maybe you’ve been stuck in this cycle for years. Maybe you’ve felt lost in the chaos of the mind, overwhelmed by comparison, or driven by fear and insecurity. But here's the truth: you’re not broken and you are worthy of what you seek and feel in your gut. You’ve just been caught up in a dance that’s not your own. The good news? You can break free.

How Do EvolDances Form?

It’s simple. We live in a world designed to distract us. We’re told to seek happiness through external things; whether it’s a job title, a car, a perfect Instagram feed, or even a relationship. But this search for fulfillment outside of ourselves leads to a sense of emptiness. The deeper we search, the further we feel from who we truly are. And in that emptiness, we turn to EvolDances for comfort.

These behaviors are often rooted in the feeling of lack which revolves around fear; fear of not being enough, fear of not measuring up, or fear of being vulnerable. And because of that, we dance the same steps over and over again, hoping to quiet the discomfort. The great news is that these can be broken and lifted with new sways of life.

Breaking the Cycle with Awakened Sways

What if I told you that you don’t have to keep dancing to this tune? You can begin to awaken to a new rhythm. Awakened Sways are the opposite of EvolDances. They’re conscious movements, thoughtful actions, and real connections with your true self.

An Awakened Sway is when you choose to stand in your truth. Instead of seeking validation from the world, you validate yourself. Instead of running from discomfort, you sit with it and learn from it. Instead of distracting yourself with instant fixes, you create lasting change.

I am not going to blow you smoke or paint you a pretty picture of letting these go. Here's the thing; breaking free from EvolDances isn’t easy. It requires self-awareness, commitment, and a willingness to confront what’s holding you back. You don’t have to do it all at once, but you do have to start somewhere.

A Major Step To Do This Is Awareness

A huge key to breaking free from any escapist behavior is awareness. You have to know what’s going on inside you to make the changes you need.

"Awareness opens the doorway to presence, transforming every moment into an opportunity for deeper understanding." - JD

Simple beginning questions to ask yourself:

• What am I running from?

• What is this behavior masking or hiding?

• What would life look like if I let go of this?

• Who is truly controlling who, Myself or My Mind? (Higher Mind or Carnal?)

  
  

Awareness allows you to start seeing the patterns in your life. You are not the pattern nor do you absorb it, you are the one observing it. And once you can observe it, you can choose to change it. Sounds easier said then done, believe me I know yet... It can be done that is why awareness is a huge key within all of this but not the only one.

True Actionable Steps to Break Free

• Journaling: Write about your thoughts, your struggles, your desires. Journaling helps clear the mental clutter and makes space for reflection.

• Mindful Breaks: Take breaks from social media, news, and anything that overwhelms you. Spend time in nature, meditate, or simply breathe deeply for a few minutes or more.

• Identify Your Triggers: What situations lead you to engage in EvolDances? Is it boredom, loneliness, stress? Identify those triggers to the CORE, then replace them with healthier habits.

• Set Boundaries: Limit your exposure to things that pull you away from your true self. Set time limits on screen use, cut out toxic relationships, and say “NO” when necessary. This journey can only be done by you and the willingness to change your state and mind which again can only be done by you and you only NO ONE else. So you choose if it is important enough to a soul leveled action for your higher self.

• Create New Habits: Instead of escaping into your old habits, develop new routines that ground you—things that nurture your body, mind, and spirit. Once you know the trigger try to change up and force your self to do the things you truly want to do; that gives you true life and peace. True standing in who you are wanting to become, as well see within your heart and self.

Looking Ahead, Know You Are Not Alone

The truth is, transformation is hard, but you don’t have to do it alone. There’s power in community. When you surround yourself with others who are on the same path, who understand your struggles, the journey becomes easier. And most importantly, you’ll realize that you have been worthy of the transformation.

As you start moving away from EvolDances and embracing Awakened Sways, remember this: change is not an event, it’s a process. You will stumble, you will fall, but as long as you keep showing up for yourself, you will Rise and Shine as the true Light that you are.

https://www.facebook.com/groups/mensmentalcommunity The link above is a small group of individuals coming together as a community to help each other on the conquest and building ahead.

Your Next Step, If You Are Truly Ready

Are you ready to break free from the patterns that no longer serve you?

Are you ready to stop dancing the same dance and start moving to the rhythm of your true self?

The path to self-discovery and inner peace IS NOT EASY, but it’s worth it.

Take a step today. Simply begin by a notion to Reflect on your life, acknowledge the EvolDances you’ve been caught in, and commit to taking just one small action toward your true self.

The Awakened Sways are waiting for you.

Your journey starts now.